Orgasm Tips
The G-spot has forever been controversial - many women state it's necessary for orgasms while others allege it's non-existent. In this article it will teach you all about that.
Foreplay & Sexual Response
What we have learned thus far is that men are physically capable and set up to have intercourse almost as soon as they're aroused. An erect penis is all it really takes on their end because all of the other physical changes will proceed to follow no matter of what occurs next. As a matter of fact, most men are eager and willing to start engaging in sex by the end of their first stage and the beginning of their second.
Women, as we have seen, don't work that way most of the time.
While they are easy to arouse, they do not automatically skip to the second stage nor are they ready for sex until almost the very end of their second stage.
When we combine those facts what we ascertain is that most couples start in sex prior to the woman is physically ready and this makes it nearly impossible for her to achieve orgasm, especially through vaginal intercourse.
Women need to develop to that point, which is why foreplay is so significant.
Before we talk about different types of foreplay, I want to point out another fact frequently overlooked by men. That point is that foreplay not only makes sex more satisfying for women but it also improves the male sexual climax. Let me explain how come. The longer men hold back from sex the more sexual stress builds in their body. The more stress that is released during climax, the stronger the orgasm is going to be. It is like pulling an elastic band. The tighter and more tense the elastic band is pulled, the farther its going to fly when it is finally let go of. That signifies foreplay will not just help your partner reach orgasm; it will also help you have better and stronger orgasms.
Foreplay Guidelines
We can not talk about foreplay without first getting down some rules of thumb. The majority of men and women don't comprehend these rules of thumb and are, as a result, not as good at foreplay as they can be. These are important to learn now because when you and your partner in the heat of the moment you will not have time to check back.
Foreplay doesn't require genital touching Some couples I have worked with had the believe that if the woman was giving the man a hand-job or if the man was playing with her clit then this was foreplay because there was no penetration. The answer is no. Good foreplay does not involve genital touching. Maintain your hands off from the vagina until you know that she is well into the second stage. Also, whenever she tries to grab your penis, you should pull her hand away. By holding back, you will be raising sexual tension in both of you.
Foreplay is not the equivalent as oral sex. Another trouble I have noticed with couples is that they incorrectly think that oral sex is a type of foreplay. While it is true that some people would agree with that idea, the truth is that oral sex is just a different variation of vaginal sex. Also, refer back to the first rules of thumb and maintain your hands and your tongue off of each other's private parts.
Foreplay should be slow. Foreplay is not intended to be a quick hurdle men have to jump in order to get to intercourse. Instead, it is supposed to be a slow, bit-by-bit increase in sexual arousal and tension. When it is done well, women become so stimulated that they will actually beg for penetration. Imagine how that would make you feel as a lover!
Foreplay can start out anywhere. Another misconception about foreplay is that it must begin in the location where sex is going to happen. For example, if you are going to have sex in the bedroom then foreplay starts when you get into the bedroom. That is not true. Foreplay can start out anywhere. In fact, location can increase the effectiveness of foreplay substantially. We will talk about that more a bit later on in this article.
Foreplay Techniques
Below are some examples of foreplay methods you can use to get your partner in the proper mood before sexual intercourse. These methods can be used jointly, but remember to start slowly and build on the passion.
If you move too rapidly, you will not accomplish the sought after effect.
Dirty talking!
Never underestimate the power of words to excite your partner. Imagine looking into your partner's eyes over dinner at a nice restaurant and whispering, You look so sexy tonight I can barely maintain my hands off of you. You can even follow it up with a verbal description of what you would like to do to her.
For instance, you could say, once we get home, I am going to slowly disrobe you, lay you down on the bed, and give you the best full body massage you have ever had. These kinds of comments will make your partner feel desirable and that will increase her arousal, plus she will be able to start fantasizing about how your hands are going to feel caressing her body and that is unquestionably going to build her anticipation for more. Just remember that you need to follow through with whatever you say. If you promise her an amazing massage, then you need to deliver.
Women are not aroused by promise breakers.
Gentle Touching
I have met with women who complain that men do not know how to touch them. By this they usually mean that men do not know how to be gentle. For instance, they grope their boobs instead of fondling them. A gentle feeling even in the most non-sexual place can have unbelievable results. There is a scene in a movie that demonstrates this point. The motion picture, Don Juan DeMarco, starred Johnny Depp as a man who thought he was a world class lover who only thought about pleasing the women he was with. In an early scene, he meets a strange woman in a restaurant and sets her on fire just by fondling part of her hand. While some may contend Johnny Depp could have that effect on a woman without touching her, there's truth to the message the character is expressing. Gently stroking your partner's shoulders or sliding your hands gently over her back can transmit shivery chills through out her body the way other types of touches will not, especially early on in the arousal process.
Kissing
Kissing is an unbelievable type of foreplay but it's often ill-used because partners do not convey what they like and what they do not like. There are several, many different ways of kissing passionately and each way is appropriate at different stages of the process. For instance, if your partner is merely aroused, you would not want to begin using a lot of tongue while you are kissing. Most women seem to dislike a lot of tongue use anyway which surprises the majority of men. Gentle kissing is best initially, including sweeping your lips across her fingers, her palm, her earlobes, her inner thighs, even her toes. Remember kissing doesn't all of the time have to involve her lips. There is a lot more of her body to touch and taste. As her level of arousal increases, your kissing can get more passionate. If you do use your tongue, just use the tip to touch her tongue or her lips lightly.
Unless you know for a fact that it turns your partner on, do not thrust your entire tongue into her mouth. Most women find this to be a turn off. Use the tips to get your partner aroused and achieve the orgasm he or she has always dreamt of!